Girl Girl Roadblocks

So if you’re new to the lifestyle then you have the lesson of “she comes first” to learn soon. While I am a believer in she “cums” first, she “comes” first can sometimes be alot less fun to live by.

We have been venturing to some of the clubs of Florida lately and the girl-girl swinger population seems out of control.

A girl-girl swinger or swingers profile means that the wives are looking for other girls to play with bisexually while the husbands enjoy the live show. Most often the other husband is not allowed to touch at all or only in the most limited way.

If you ask me, and you didn’t, im not sure how this is even “swinging”, but of course to each there own is the backbone of the lifestyle.

This entire lifestyle choice seems to break one major rule of the lifestyle which is that bedroom fun is something to share together in an unselfish way. Ladies, while your husband may tell you he loves watching you please another woman, what hes not saying is that he would love it more if he could help.

We had once had a unicorn when we lived up north that was from Miami. She had warned us the scene was very different here in regards to the social dynamic of the couples in the lifestyle. She had said in Florida it was like fishing, which means the older husband sends the sexy young wives out to find other wives and reel em back in for a girl-girl only swinging playtime.

Im sorry to report she was correct in this description.

Now, this is not to say its only girl girl, swinging is still the same anywhere you go, but there is far more girl-girl “guys watch” couples here in the Florida scene.

Sounds like a great problem to have you may think? Not really.

The problem arrises that we are a full swap couple, we play all different ways, but we prefer to hit a home run with a couple where everyone wins. So now we are in the clubs like Trapeze or Miami Velvet or simply browsing through sexy profiles online. Now we think we found a hot couple till we read the preferences and they are girl girl only.

Again, you say this is their choice and I can’t say word one? You are right about that for sure, but everything in moderation. When emails start coming in from couples looking for single girls only over and over it begins to feel like walking on eggshells at the clubs. The rules are the same everywhere but now a full swap couple has to step lightly and be concerned about finding out at the last second that he is to wait on the sidelines.

Am I ranting a little? yes for sure I am. But is the girl-girl scene pretty big ddown here in the Floridas? Again a yes. And do they have to make it clear early and often and not be offended when we walk away from this one sided hookup? A final yes.

I found my wife dancing and exchanging touches with a very sexy latin girl in her 20′s this past week at a club. The husband was great, friendly sitting at the bar with me and toasting our sexy wives. To a trained eye in the lifestyle like ours we both knew what this couple was looking for and it wasn’t the same as us. her husband was in his late 40′s, and not my wife’s type anyway but also seemed determined to step back and encourage his girl with mine. It was super sexy, they were great, but my wife also knew that she is not about me sitting at the bar excited and sighing.

Another couple apprached my wife as soon as this other girl ran off to the bathroom, a sexy blonde and her good looking husband. My wife was dancing with her the same, she signaled me over to them and we all had a little dance floor fun. Now the first girl returns and her husband and her watch and wait then leave in rejection. This is my example of everyone having the best intention, everone finding each other sexy, but at the same time we were like a horse and a zebra trying to mate. We looked the same, ran in the same field but are not compatiable.

Everyone have fun, we like to play in every way, but with everyone looking for something different in the club you have to feel it out very quickly and understand when they like you alot but are not into the same things for excitment nor have the same comfort levels in sharing.