Good luck finding that unicorn

A unicorn in the lifestyle means a single girl in the lifestyle. It has been dubbed the Unicorn, because it is a mythical creature that does not exist.

One trouble you will find is that while swinging is a woman’s world in sense of decision making and center of attention, it is a man’s world in sense of numbers. One is a cause the other an effect.

First thing that will happen to you as a swinging couple is you will find a very limited number of couples you both can agree upon. Many couples are always looking to date upwards. This means that a pair of 7/10’s are always looking for the 8’s. Guess what this means? youll never date cause the 8’s are not looking for you.

On occasion you will find a good match, and thats the magic of the lifestyle as you will have effectively given yourselves a relationship of 4 with the chemistry of 2.

Now the rarity of this match means youll have voids of time when you may want to play. The lifestyle will mean dozens of single men contacting you about joining in an MMF. If you are a member of Adultfriendfinder.com, you can expect about 5 single male pen*s pictures in your inbox for every couple.

Now many couples will invite one from time to time, like we do, but you need to either get used to this inbalance as a man or make peace with it somehow…cause you will not find the amount of unicorns you thought you would for yourself.

My wife has a new boyfriend, they go out together, a new twist for us, which takes getting use to. While this has opened the door to me to pursue any women I want, it still is hard to balance the desire for her with the competition I face for the few unicorns.

The solution? Is to recruit unicorns. You need to skip the looking and discuss the fact that the only way to get single girls home to join you will be to pick up girls like you were 21 again. Vanilla girls you meet out at stores and, my favorite, my wifes friends are your best bet to get a long term friend to keep the balance.

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