So I had the displeasure and laugh of watching FOX 4 news in southwest Florida rub all their minds together and try to sum swinging up in a 3 minute blurb.
http://www.fox4now.com/story/14557823/swfl-swingers-scene
The writing staff took their zero experience in the subject, interviewed a doctor with zero experience in the subject and scared some neighbors with their stories of
“sexual deviants creeping in their rooms at night to steal their children”.
They even had the hidden face swinger telling all, and gasping neighbor showing the appropriate shock.
The references to being forced underground sound very nazi-esque.
I have before compared swinging to homosexuality in that it is a choice/or natural depending on you beliefs, it harms nobody and it is a personal decision and life choice. I can’t think of anything more genetic or natural than every persons desire for sex and fantasy.
I still am left not knowing why hate towards the gay community is a hate crime, but hate towards a equally or far more natural personal lifestyle like swinging is allowed and encouraged?
Perhaps we need some lobbyists?
A strange double standard. And not a knock on my gay friends throughout life, and the many bisexual women in the lifestyle itself.
FOX 4 put their expert reporting mind of Liza Fernandez on the case, who’s title is that of “reporter” and also “weekend meteorologist”, clearly an expert in reporting such social issues.
The meat of the story was spent interviewing Dr. Krista DeWelde a sociologist.
They were very intent on trying to create such a thing as an expert on swinging that has unfortunately never been one, seen one, partied with one or socialized with them as a group.
FOX 4 gave us lots of ambient camera shots of her diploma and the books she has apparently written.
The expert Dr. Krista DeWelde, the one with zero related experience, went on to explain:
“So there are jealous feelings that come with imagining, seeing, experiencing your partner with another person”.
This single line preoves she has zero knowledge of the topics she claims to be a convenient expert on.
These jealous feeling from seeing and imagining your partner are far more dulled and extinct in experienced swingers, This jealousy is the exact thing that defines non swingers.
Swinging isn’t about the sex alone, it is about the comfort and complete open frankness you get to enjoy everyday.
Infidelity and fear of infidelity are the exact opposite of what swinging represents. Sexual relations without consent is the exact opposite of sex with consent and mutual appreciation.
In cheating and the fear it creates in weak relationship swinging and non swinging it is the breech of trust that is the offense not the act itself.
In the “lifestyle” there is the act with no breach of trust. In the non swinging world, everyday your boyfriend, husband and girlfriend’s eyes scan other people, coworkers and sexy strangers. All this time they never share their feeling or what they inside would feel as an indiscretion.
Secrets breach trust, and in the lifestyle the most hidden secrets of the “real world” are not secrets. My partner and I share every thought, the most natural ones we all have, thoughts of sex, fantasy and desire.
I have heard swinging described in this way and it can serve as a lesson for the metoerologist, and non swinger sociologist that seem intent on faking expertise on this matter.
Jealousy, fear of breached trust and worry over your partners honesty are perhaps the most poisonous things that can exist in a relationship. Weve all been a part of a relationship in our youth where we thought perhaps it was happening to us and it overtakes you mind and can not be removed once in place.
These jealous feeling are poison to the ability to trust.
Now in swinging we all had slight pangs of jealousy the first few times, then a little everytime your scenerio or playtime progressed to new milestones.
We took that jealousy like a small tase of the poison that haunts non swingers. Thenext day we woke up together, arroused, excited and feeling like kids. More importantly, we woke up still ok, in love and “the sky didn’t fall”. What most non swinging couples consider the most horrible thing they could ever imagine in their mind, we faced that fear and it didn’t really hurt. We learned that for the most part it was fun and i learned the next day my wife loves me and nothing at all can dent that. The greatest fear of non swingers bounced off our relationship like a rubber ball, without even a mark.
Now as a few years passed, we played alone, with singles, friends and built relationship of all natures. We upped the dose as we desired more or got more comfortable with the idea that nothing at all can get between us and the “sky will never fall”.
And now today here we are, immune to the worst poison all “vanilla” non swingers fear, Jeaoulsy, infidelity, our partners desiring others sexually and telling our partner that we do too.
What fun and exciting things and freedoms can destroy the strongest 30 year non-swinging marriage in 5 minutes, can never even make us skip a beat.
And lastly, my parting advice to Dr. Krista DeWelde, aside from come to a club and let me change your mind 
. Is that there are many things in life one can’t understand without experiencing it. The first night my wife and I ever played and began in the lifestyle with both feet in, we learned one lesson, which was that there is no way to be prepared for the experience.
No person outside the lifestyle can anticipate or know what to expect without trying it. Like no other thing I have done in my life, it was a change of mindset and programming in place for a lifetime.
See the story here if you like
http://www.fox4now.com/story/14557823/swfl-swingers-scene
Also, turned on to this story by Rebecca Ammon at rebeccaammon.com, so go read her now. 
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