The “dicks” back in high school got all the girls right? Well that kinda will hold true in your ventures into the lifestyle. This doesn’t mean to act disrespectful, by all means never do that. But, like back in your dating youth, it is the guy in the lifestyle who can walk right up, throw an arm around a girl and dominate a situation in a confident way that will have all the options come to them.

Those of us to nervous to do this, we hted that guy, thats why I say “those dicks” for being so naturally brave with ladies.

The problem here that arrises is that 90% of people are not that guy.

Alot of nice guys, patient guys and low keyed men do great with the ladies and couples. But what we have also learned is that standing against the wall and not making your desires very clear to others is a sure way to go home alone.

So, this creates a tense situation that many people deal with by drinking in the lifestyle. And with drinking comes the univesaal issue of pacing. We have known a few couples now that were great people, fun to be around but tended to be one drinnk too many by the time the lights got low at the party. For the most part it is drinking, for others it may be other things mixed in as well.

We never judge anyone, we decide on a person by their personality and how they treat us. We have very few instant disqualifications as some couples may have. But the fact is that overdrinkers become very unappealing very fast. Despite what outsiders may think, the lifestyl is alot of people with no limits and a good amount of style and class. Drinking is a pretty sure way to be the one person that does not.

I had seen it written on an “advice per day” calender once to “never let anyone see you drunk.” This is never more evendient than in the lifestyle where you are living like a “wild” teenager, but in the company of people with style class and options in the room. A women is impressed by a man’s control of a situation, his ability to be witty, smart and in command. Drinking may make you feel better, but it is only giving you the ability to open your mouth more while having less control over what comes out.

It is better to be silent and have people assume the worst about you, then to open it and ease all doubt.

For us, have one drink at the club or party, then make the second one last. Better to have to catch up later and be the sharpest guy in the room, then to have to sit down and try and recover while the sober guys are impressing all the sexiest dates.

It is important to note that while there is something for everyone, there is alot of sites for nobody as well.

We have experience working with and being members on a large number of websites. Each of them are ideal for a certain type of swinger crowd.

AFF or Adult Friend Finder is one of the best known site, thanks to alot of “marketing” it has become a super well exposed brand.

We have been members of Aff.com for a number of years. We started there because it is where inexperienced swingers go before they learn more about the lifestyle. We also returned there because it does have a huge member base if you are looking for certain things. If you want “off the radar” swingers, newbies, freaks and of course single men who are more horny than lifestyle this is a good place to shop.

Adultfriendfinder.com will give you access to a barrage of penis pictures and single guys wanting to “get laid”. I have stated before that guys out to “get laid” are not swingers. Single males in the lifestyle are very different in their demeanor, approach and understanding of how to be a friend in the lifestyle as a single male.

AFF also brings a good amount of something different if you are like us and want those off the radar swingers who don’t exist on other sites and don’t attend parties and swinger events. You can find the closet swingers on AFF for sure.

SLS or www.SwingLifeStyle.com is one of the other “big ones” online for meeting experienced couples. SLS is highly involved in the lifestle events, community and promoting. You will find SLS to have a 1990′s quality website, not much in the way of modern website features, but it does have the most important features of a huge, huge client base of members. We have never been a paying member on SLS, free members only so we did not explore all it’s features. We never found the need for a membership there in the area we lived.

SDC.com or the Swing Dating Community is one of the sites you could probally start out on as a new swinger. You would be happy to know it is so full and well rounded with events and large number of profiles that you could stay there long into your experiences as well. SDC is very connected in the southeast with running events and meet and greets so you get a good handle of whats going on as well. With sites like AFF.com you do not get events to attend and the sense of community on a true swingers website like SDC.com provides. This is one site we are actively a member on and will likely always be.

Playfulswingers.com is one we had been a member of for a short time when we lived in Atlanta and Raleigh. This site is generally based from Virginia to Tampa on the east coast and provides alot of real couples and info on events. Playfulswingers is associated with AAHZ party events and hotel takeovers and promotes them through there. We have attended 2 of these events and they are excellent fun. If you do not get to travle to the best clubs in Atlanta and Miami then these AAHZ events are about as good as you can get. This site doesnt have too many single and is almost all real couples ages 28-45 that are experienced in the lifestyle. This site has recently BECOME FREE as well. We reccomend you go and sign up there and meet alot of the established regulars, a very friendly community style site.

MVClub.com is the site in conjnction with the Miami Velvet Swingers Club. Membership on MVClub.com is about the same price as SDC or AFF but at the same time gets you huge discounts on Miami Velvet admission prices year round. Miami Velvet also hosts alot of SDC meet and greets and events. There is at the very least 2 of these per month at Velvet, which are great low cost and top quality crowds and parties. This is another site we have been members of on and off, and if you are anywhere in Florida from Tampa to Miami you should be a member on this site. MVClub isnt the most modern site of this group but it does have alot of smart features others don’t. MVClub.com is the only one weve seen that tells you someone is currently reading your profile, which in turn makes you read theirs, and in real time you are meeting in essence. This is a super smart feature, simple and smart. You can also see who is attending the parties on this site, previewing the nights crowd at the club you all meet up at later is a priceless idea. With the amazing admission discounts this is a must signup website for a Florida area swinger couple.

Facebook? Yes Facebook. This has slowly and surely been beating the others into the ground. Facebook has created an ideal setting for swingers to meet. You can go anonymously to a swingers board, LIKE join ar comment and see a huge list of swingers right on that wall. More and more swinging communities have been starting a second anonymous facebook account for the reason of being able to secretly socialize with their friends and peers. So newbies, this is another free way for you to start meeting people safely at home.

We have alot of cute vanilla friends, made all the cuter because of their off-limits status. There is clearly something sexier and more erotic about  the look of surprise and longing on the face of a vanilla friend being exposed for the first time. There is even more fun to be found in being the one holding their hand, then their towel .

Most full swap couples in the lifestyle have at very least dabbled with the concept of converting a friend or two they know. A friend at work, old friend you always liked or even that next door neighbor or family friend that always seemed a bit more exciting than most.

While there is a slight risk in the fact that you “can never UNtell” someone your lifestyle secret, we all also know when and who to break it to. We all have friends that are not quite vanilla and we know they would be open or interested in being a part of our fun.

Add to all this the fact that most swingers are very cordial and helpful in helping new couoples or “tire-kickers” who want to learn more. We have all been the new couple, latched to the wall, intimidated or just nervous of how things work and not wanting to overstep our bounds.

For this fact, most couples and experienced swingers are more than happy to escort you to a new club, a house party or simply sit and have drinks till 3AM talking about experiences and letting you learn a safe and easy way.

Keep in mind, we are staring at you like a tasty sandwich and hoping you will scream “LETS GO”, but sitting patiently all the same and being horny and helpful in one motion.

So when they person or couple says, “lets goto the club together”, “lets ride with you to that party you talked about”.

Now what do you do?

Of course, most of us say, “great idea”. We start getting ideas of a hot night with fresh meat and a great sexual experience with someone on their first time. Most of us say yes and go along with this fantasy that seldom turns out this way.

So my advice to you now is, don’t throw away a great party or that Saturday babysitter you worked so hard to get. While helping others learn and break-in is a great idea, this will almost never turn out as described in your fantasy talk with your wife.

We have found ourself at clubs on 3 or 4 occasions with the “new – dont know anyone” semi-vanilla couple or person attached to our hip. Every one of these have been cute for awhile then frustrating later when old friends start dancing with us and the party gets a bit hot and we need to be constantly good hosts.

This is like having a big party in your home. You think wow this will be great, you make all the decisions, set up everything, pick the music, but in the end it becomes you working while everyone else is in party-mode and having more fun than you.

Have that person over to your house for something more private and don’t waste that babysitter. Have that person drive to the club or party seperately and best yet get them a date or a “stunt-couple” so you are sure they have someone other than JUST you to talk with all night.

We have done this on a few occasions, we have everytime woke up the next day already planning our next party without any baggage. Without going into detail, we found ourselves standing and talking to them all night being courteous.

We essentially found ourselves reduced to vanillas in an attempt to help other not be.

And on the few occasions that we said “they’ll be fine” and went ahead, got naked got wild or just pursued couples we liked on our own for a bit, we tend to wake up the next day feeling guilty about their discomfort the night before.

It is certainly true it depends on the vanilla, if they are bold and good with people to begin with. They need to understand that they make their own fun. It is always a bit ackward as they learn about boundries and learn how and when it’s ok to do what. When that agressive leo male comes up and throws and arm around her or dives in for a kiss, these are the few surprises they need to not be surprised by.

Once they learn how it is different to be at a lifestyle party they will learn how to socialize without worry, unfortunately it tends to take a lifestyle couple having a PG-13 night of setting an example before they can get to this point.

So, in short, dont throw away that great party on breaking someone in. Best to lead them to water, teach them by stories at your place alone and let them fend for themselves at that big party.

It may sound a bit insensitive, but babysitters and great parties are not infinite and the vanilla-sitting is sure to waste one of each.

“We started with just voyerism. Then we agreed on a couple and we had our first soft swap. I have to admit that I have been insecure at times in between. I have cornered Miguel and asked him if he would still want me if I said I never wanted to swing again. He replies very sincerely that he would still want me, that he will always want me.

Something about that, that he is so damned attentive. He is still always making sure that I had fun, that it was good for me. I know alot of guys think they do that. Really? Have you watched her pleasure herself and taken mental notes on how to do it better yourself? Do you tell her she is so sexy every single day, do you make her feel like the sexiest bitch on the planet? Are you only open to the idea of a girl/girl situation? She is with a guy for a reason, she probably loves the cock and may even prefer it. Be open to the idea of a single guy or another couple, so she can really get off too. I know I am coming to realize I am more of a boobs lesbian than a bi-girl. It all depends on the girl, really.

If you have cheated in the past (in this relationship), or are trying to get her to let you fuck her friends this is probably not for you. I have close girlfirends that know about my lifestyle but i do not play with them, for me it would be too weird. If you worked on pleasing her more, she would want more sex. If you say you are open to a man pleasing your wife, really be into it. You will get better sex, I promise you. It will be “thank you” sex, that blows your fucking mind! She would want to make to you feel as good as you make her feel.”

http://www.fox4now.com/story/14557823/swfl-swingers-scene

The writing staff took their zero experience in the subject, interviewed a doctor with zero experience in the subject and scared some neighbors with their stories of
“sexual deviants creeping in their rooms at night to steal their children”.

They even had the hidden face swinger telling all, and gasping neighbor showing the appropriate shock.

The references to being forced underground sound very nazi-esque.

I have before compared swinging to homosexuality in that it is a choice/or natural depending on you beliefs, it harms nobody and it is a personal decision and life choice. I can’t think of anything more genetic or natural than every persons desire for sex and fantasy.

I still am left not knowing why hate towards the gay community is a hate crime, but hate towards a equally or far more natural personal lifestyle like swinging is allowed and encouraged?

Perhaps we need some lobbyists?

A strange double standard. And not a knock on my gay friends throughout life, and the many bisexual women in the lifestyle itself.

FOX 4 put their expert reporting mind of Liza Fernandez on the case, who’s title is that of “reporter” and also “weekend meteorologist”, clearly an expert in reporting such social issues.

The meat of the story was spent interviewing Dr. Krista DeWelde a sociologist.

They were very intent on trying to create such a thing as an expert on swinging that has unfortunately never been one, seen one, partied with one or socialized with them as a group.

FOX 4 gave us lots of ambient camera shots of her diploma and the books she has apparently written.

The expert Dr. Krista DeWelde, the one with zero related experience, went on to explain:

“So there are jealous feelings that come with imagining, seeing, experiencing your partner with another person”.

This single line preoves she has zero knowledge of the topics she claims to be a convenient expert on.

These jealous feeling from seeing and imagining your partner are far more dulled and extinct in experienced swingers, This jealousy is the exact thing that defines non swingers.

Swinging isn’t about the sex alone, it is about the comfort and complete open frankness you get to enjoy everyday.

Infidelity and fear of infidelity are the exact opposite of what swinging represents. Sexual relations without consent is the exact opposite of sex with consent and mutual appreciation.

In cheating and the fear it creates in weak relationship swinging and non swinging it is the breech of trust that is the offense not the act itself.

In the “lifestyle” there is the act with no breach of trust. In the non swinging world, everyday your boyfriend, husband and girlfriend’s eyes scan other people, coworkers and sexy strangers. All this time they never share their feeling or what they inside would feel as an indiscretion.

Secrets breach trust, and in the lifestyle the most hidden secrets of the “real world” are not secrets. My partner and I share every thought, the most natural ones we all have, thoughts of sex, fantasy and desire.

I have heard swinging described in this way and it can serve as a lesson for the metoerologist, and non swinger sociologist that seem intent on faking expertise on this matter.

Jealousy, fear of breached trust and worry over your partners honesty are perhaps the most poisonous things that can exist in a relationship. Weve all been a part of a relationship in our youth where we thought perhaps it was happening to us and it overtakes you mind and can not be removed once in place.

These jealous feeling are poison to the ability to trust.

Now in swinging we all had slight pangs of jealousy the first few times, then a little everytime your scenerio or playtime progressed to new milestones.

We took that jealousy like a small tase of the poison that haunts non swingers. Thenext day we woke up together, arroused, excited and feeling like kids. More importantly, we woke up still ok, in love and “the sky didn’t fall”. What most non swinging couples consider the most horrible thing they could ever imagine in their mind, we faced that fear and it didn’t really hurt. We learned that for the most part it was fun and i learned the next day my wife loves me and nothing at all can dent that. The greatest fear of non swingers bounced off our relationship like a rubber ball, without even a mark.

Now as a few years passed, we played alone, with singles, friends and built relationship of all natures. We upped the dose as we desired more or got more comfortable with the idea that nothing at all can get between us and the “sky will never fall”.

And now today here we are, immune to the worst poison all “vanilla” non swingers fear, Jeaoulsy, infidelity, our partners desiring others sexually and telling our partner that we do too.

What fun and exciting things and freedoms can destroy the strongest 30 year non-swinging marriage in 5 minutes, can never even make us skip a beat.

And lastly, my parting advice to Dr. Krista DeWelde, aside from come to a club and let me change your mind . Is that there are many things in life one can’t understand without experiencing it. The first night my wife and I ever played and began in the lifestyle with both feet in, we learned one lesson, which was that there is no way to be prepared for the experience.

No person outside the lifestyle can anticipate or know what to expect without trying it. Like no other thing I have done in my life, it was a change of mindset and programming in place for a lifetime.

See the story here if you like
http://www.fox4now.com/story/14557823/swfl-swingers-scene

Also, turned on to this story by Rebecca Ammon at rebeccaammon.com, so go read her now.

I need advice, tips, any help on how to ask my partner to experiment with another couple. Seriously I need advice on how to ask my girlfriend to participate in some hot sexual activities with other couples, women or men without sounding like a prude or an ass.

She only mentions adding an addition to the bedroom when she is drinking. But that tells me that she has thought about it. Any ideas on how to bring this to reality?

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Sometimes when people drink, they turn to be more open, they might talk more. It might not be your girlfriend, it might be the alcohol who talks from her. The alcohol changes many people personality, some of the turn to really friendly, some others very aggressive, etc.

In your case, your girlfriend is talking about her fantasy when she is under the effect of alcohol. Everybody have erotic fantasy, but some people never say anything about anybody, some others try to make it reality.

I don’t think drunken or half drunken talk from your lady mean anything. She just might try to be somebody else when she had more drink that she can handle….

You need to talk about this with her when she is sober… and the best time is during intercourse, when she is close to have an orgasm…

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I have found that some women although not every women, have a tendency to hint at a fantasy or two without taking any ownership of the idea or making any effort to make it happen.

This seems like a way of protecting themselves from accusations of being a slut or oversexed, which is a tragic risk women still face in our society.

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I believe that more women think about and fantasize about sexual adventures with others then their spouse, than actually do anything about it. When alcohol is involved… inhibitions go out the window and you can blame anything on the “I was drunk” excuse.

Confidence in one’s sexuality leads to exploration. Maybe you could ask her about her fantasies and let her know you remember her drunken words and let her know you would like to make them come true. She may reciprocate…

Ya man, never know. Give it a try!

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What I find strange and it happens a lot, is the number of people who come on here and, ask total strangers for advice on asking their partners on sexual matters such as this. It is strange, but I understand, because this forum’s advice line was created for this reason, plus easy to ask a question with out anybody know who you are.

That is why the Internet is changed the erotic dating world!

At the end of the day, you should be able to discuss anything with her and she should be comfortable enough to answer you in an adult way. Just ask her and hopefully, she will answer you. Just respect her decision, even if it’s not the answer you want. Forcing the issue will alienate her from you.

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The next time you are having sex flirt with the question of inviting another man to join you two.

See how she reacts. If she did not say no way… and did not jump up and run a way, then you just need to talk a little more…

But be careful, it might happen she run a way and then you just get into yourself a big trouble.

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Sit down over a glass of wine and say these words: “What do you say we experiment with another couple“.

There is two words what she can say.. or she can ask you back? How do you think?

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Can I call him a minute man? I met a guy on-line. Not here on another dating site, but they don’t have forum… So we had our first date in a bar last Friday night and everything is worked out perfectly. He was nice, smelled good and there was a lot of chemistry. When the [...]

Can I call him a minute man? I met a guy on-line. Not here on another dating site, but they don’t have forum… So we had our first date in a bar last Friday night and everything is worked out perfectly. He was nice, smelled good and there was a lot of chemistry. When the bar closed, we decided to go to my car (van) and make out.

And he did not take longer then 30 seconds to cum and I did not even give him my famous blow job… Lucky me, he probably would cum into my mouth, with out any warning, and I hate that.

Anyway, he just started to fuck me, I hardly had enough time to fined a comfortable position… and he already blow his load. So I protested and he called me a bitch and then left.

He could have at least stayed to eat my pussy. How come if  a guy could not perform, blame their sexual inadequacies on women?

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Was he a teenager? Maybe he was virgin, and never see pussy before… Anyway, what do you except? You went to your car to have sex and he finished himself in 30 seconds… Well things like this can happen, but people usually have sex in car when they want to have a quicky…

As I see on your profile you are 39 years old, you should go somewhere in a motel, and play your game by the rules… which is good job need time, I talk about appetizer… You should not serve him the main curse, before you had the appetizer.

He did not blame you, he called you a beach, because, probably your language what you used to during your protest. Maybe you should say something like this: Okay, it was quick, let me find a solution to get you hard again… Did you try?

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I never would blame a woman for something I couldn’t do. Shame on him. If I had the issue of cumming to quickly, I definitely would have stayed to finish the job with my tongue – mouth combination. I would try to give you the best oral orgasm that you ever had. Do you wanna try?

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Go to have sex in your car with a virgin dude and you pretty much get what you ask for. He has no reason to have any regard for you or care if you get off. He got off and he left. You got what you deserved, basically.

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Maybe you did not have shower between the bar and your car… and your pussy had a bad odor, or maybe you had a bad attitude. Or maybe the combination of both.

Maybe you were just what he was looking for – a piece of ass, from the meat market… and that’s what got it. And then he left.

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Lesson No. 1. Never let a guy fuck you before he eats your pussy.

Lesson No. 1 also goes for lesson Nos. 2 and 3.

I don’t know what the 4th lesson is, maybe some body can help me? But I think something like, adult women should not have sex in a car… that is for virgin teens…

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I think some guys don’t know how to communicate their sexual stamina to the women they disappoint. It might happen because they are inexperienced.

I myself feel very unsatisfied if I cum too soon. Sometimes it is because I am too horny or just to excited. I will not leave my partner unsatisfied, I will eat her pussy till she cum and look to fuck her again, because pussy eating always get me horny and the second time I will give her satisfaction.

I hate leaving a woman unsatisfied. That is same like stilling… Is a crime!

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30 seconds you say. That means he had gone a long time without. That means wait half-an-hour and he could have another go with another hard-on. How old was he? Young? That means he’s good to go again.

How much drink did you both have–more than 3 beers? More than 6 beers? Or hard liqueur?

What were you’re exact criticism to him? Why shouldn’t that protest upset him? Did you call him dick less? Remember the old sayings, never look a gift horse in the mouth. Always say thank you,

You’re lucky he just called you bitch. Instead do something, you initiated the critical response, the failure is on you that he chose to call it an early evening and not continue fucking you the way you wanted.

Sounds like a good part of the failure that evening rests with you;  especially as fucking a woman is by invite only and you failed in your response as well.

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Consistent squirting. I’m a squirter, found that out via masturbating! I was wondering why do I squirt one time having sex with someone then when I have sex with the same partner or with different different partner, but in the same same sex position, I don’t squirt??

Anyone else have this happen?

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Maybe it is because you know your body better then your lovers. Try talking more to your men and let them know what you like and want and then maybe the water works will come back.

Just a personal note squirting is hot and very sexy!

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That happens to me as well. Those who have made me squirt can do it consistently, but there are others who haven’t been able to make it happen at all even with guidance.

It all depends on your partners ability to find your spot & with you relaxing yourself enough to let go & let it flow.

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My wife is a squirter too and as inconsistent as you. In my wife’s case it’s more about how erotic the situation
is rather than what is happening!

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I don’t squirt so I can’t say first hand. I would think it has something to do with your state of mind at the time. Maybe you’re not as relaxed as you are when your masturbating.

Sometimes if you try to do anything to hard it just makes it more difficult.

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It is different every time. Sometimes I find that once a man gets me really squirting, they expect it every time, that puts pressure on me to squirt and makes it harder.

I also find that being slightly dehydrated makes it harder too.

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I’m not a squirter, so I can’t answer your question. I didn’t even know such a thing existed until my husband
tried to get me interested in porn some years back and that was one of the subjects. Squirt queens, or some such thing was that porn movies name.

I never really understood how it happens. Maybe, like fre2play says, it has to do with your state of mind and how excited and therefore how wet you get as you masturbate.

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I find it depends on many things…

My mood, degree of arousal.

My partner penis size and his knowledge, etc.

I just enjoy it when it happens!!! And of course the guys enjoy even more!

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The most frustrating is when I don’t want to squirt and it happens… Like at home at night in our bed. I don’t wanna sleep on THAT wet spot! So I need to change the bed shit, and it usually happens when the bed is clean. I think it is something in my brain.

With me it has to do with how hydrated I am… less hydrated, less squirting… and alcohol causes less volume too. So when I changed the bed shits, then I drink before I go to sleep. My husband don’t like to touch me if I drink… so it give me a day or two on hand, but after that, I will get that bed really wet…

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Older men as casual sex partner.  Why are older men are better lovers?

Is it me, or do older men seem to enjoy getting their partner off more than younger men do?

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I absolutely agree that older men do care more about their sex partner… and they are much more polite then young guys.

As we women get older we have less chance to have quality sex and if we lucky enough to have a mind blowing orgasm we appreciate more our partner’s love making knowledge. I am 35 years old, and no any guy from my age group or younger guy was able to make me climax with vaginal penetration.

Men 10 – 15 years older then me could take their time… as long as it needed.

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I am a 58 years old man. I am all about my partner’s pleasure, and because I do not cum very often, but have a lot of stamina, I can take my time to explore a range of techniques and discover the things that bring her the most enjoyment.

I derive my pleasure from the enjoyment my lovers or sex partner experience, while learning from her what works best each time, so that each next time is potentially that much more enjoyable.

A woman seeking an older, more experienced lover are far more likely to learn new things about what their own bodies are capable of, are likely to enjoy longer and better foreplay, and will come away with a greater and deeper understanding of what they should expect from a good lover to begin with.

Some have said that such a lover would ruin it for other lovers she has, but it is my conviction that she will be far better prepared to offer directions and instructions that produce results, to her future lovers, while being far less prone to settling for any half-baked asshole who thinks he’s god’s gift to any woman.

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I think guys in their 50′s are wonderful lovers… patient, very concerned with their partner’s pleasure, well-versed in a variety of techniques, etc.

As a result, I prefer them over the ones in their 30′s, even though the younger guys have their appeal in other ways.

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Fortunately, I learned pretty quickly that there were two of us in bed looking for enjoyment, not just me. I don’t profess to be the greatest thing since sliced bread, but, hopefully, I have learned to press the right buttons and take my time.

I have stated previously, sex with man over 50 is more of a long distance event than a 100 meter dash. We take time to speed up, keep on the speed longer and pass the finish line hours later, while give to our partner and to ourselves total sexual satisfaction…

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I’ve always preferred older men. From my experience, they’ve been more attentive. Even though their libido
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What seems to be older is younger for me and not to generalize, it is my experience that most men in their lower to upper 50′s make great lovers. They are considerate, educated, have nice manners and their knowledge of “la femme” is surprisingly and refreshingly good.

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So far I do find that when playing with older men, I am able to enjoy and climax more often and many times over then when I am playing with guys around and younger then me.

Plus because they do not take short cuts… my climax are much more fulfilling, satisfying then with climax from younger guy.

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I think it have to do something with the women age too. I am a 65 years old women to have sex with a 70 years old man is not at the top of my wish list…

I enjoy younger men-always have, always will. But when you get to be my age, that’s damn near all of them! I prefer late 30′s to mid 40′s because they are old enough to have all that teenage crap out of the way but they are also experienced enough to know their way around a female body.

I have a high sex drive yet, and that age group seems to be able to keep up with me! But it is not easy, because not many 530 years old man want to have sex with a women, who can be older and probably is older then their mother…

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He cums in 30 seconds
Can I call him a minute man? I met a guy on-line. Not here on another dating site, but they don’t have forum… So we had our first date in a bar last Friday night and everything is worked out perfectly. He was nice, smelled good and there was a lot of chemistry. When the [...]

Can I call him a minute man? I met a guy on-line. Not here on another dating site, but they don’t have forum… So we had our first date in a bar last Friday night and everything is worked out perfectly. He was nice, smelled good and there was a lot of chemistry. When the bar closed, we decided to go to my car (van) and make out.

And he did not take longer then 30 seconds to cum and I did not even give him my famous blow job… Lucky me, he probably would cum into my mouth, with out any warning, and I hate that.

Anyway, he just started to fuck me, I hardly had enough time to fined a comfortable position… and he already blow his load. So I protested and he called me a bitch and then left.

He could have at least stayed to eat my pussy. How come if  a guy could not perform, blame their sexual inadequacies on women?

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Was he a teenager? Maybe he was virgin, and never see pussy before… Anyway, what do you except? You went to your car to have sex and he finished himself in 30 seconds… Well things like this can happen, but people usually have sex in car when they want to have a quicky…

As I see on your profile you are 39 years old, you should go somewhere in a motel, and play your game by the rules… which is good job need time, I talk about appetizer… You should not serve him the main curse, before you had the appetizer.

He did not blame you, he called you a beach, because, probably your language what you used to during your protest. Maybe you should say something like this: Okay, it was quick, let me find a solution to get you hard again… Did you try?

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I never would blame a woman for something I couldn’t do. Shame on him. If I had the issue of cumming to quickly, I definitely would have stayed to finish the job with my tongue – mouth combination. I would try to give you the best oral orgasm that you ever had. Do you wanna try?

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Go to have sex in your car with a virgin dude and you pretty much get what you ask for. He has no reason to have any regard for you or care if you get off. He got off and he left. You got what you deserved, basically.

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Maybe you did not have shower between the bar and your car… and your pussy had a bad odor, or maybe you had a bad attitude. Or maybe the combination of both.

Maybe you were just what he was looking for – a piece of ass, from the meat market… and that’s what got it. And then he left.

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Lesson No. 1. Never let a guy fuck you before he eats your pussy.

Lesson No. 1 also goes for lesson Nos. 2 and 3.

I don’t know what the 4th lesson is, maybe some body can help me? But I think something like, adult women should not have sex in a car… that is for virgin teens…

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I think some guys don’t know how to communicate their sexual stamina to the women they disappoint. It might happen because they are inexperienced.

I myself feel very unsatisfied if I cum too soon. Sometimes it is because I am too horny or just to excited. I will not leave my partner unsatisfied, I will eat her pussy till she cum and look to fuck her again, because pussy eating always get me horny and the second time I will give her satisfaction.

I hate leaving a woman unsatisfied. That is same like stilling… Is a crime!

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30 seconds you say. That means he had gone a long time without. That means wait half-an-hour and he could have another go with another hard-on. How old was he? Young? That means he’s good to go again.

How much drink did you both have–more than 3 beers? More than 6 beers? Or hard liqueur?

What were you’re exact criticism to him? Why shouldn’t that protest upset him? Did you call him dick less? Remember the old sayings, never look a gift horse in the mouth. Always say thank you,

You’re lucky he just called you bitch. Instead do something, you initiated the critical response, the failure is on you that he chose to call it an early evening and not continue fucking you the way you wanted.

Sounds like a good part of the failure that evening rests with you;  especially as fucking a woman is by invite only and you failed in your response as well.

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Here is some generic reading on the art of making her squirt.

1. Don’t go for the goods right away. You want to build up massive amounts of anticipation. Feel around her vagina but don’t enter her right way rub all around it.

2. Once she’s warmed up enter her with one finger and feel all the way around the walls of her vagina watching her body as an indicator to how it feels to her.

3. Let her know how much it gets you off being able to please her, tell her how good she feels, tell her how you love how turned on she gets. You want her to know that you thoroughly enjoy giving her pleasure this will more easily allow her to “let go” and have a squirting orgasm.

4. Begin To Stimulate her g spot using a come here motion. Vary it up between long and short strokes. The G Spot will begin to swell and balloon out as she gets closer and closer to climax. Essentially it is in and up. Hook your finger go in her about 2 inches and press up with a rythem, youll feel the bulging spot to stimulate.

5. She will begin to feel a sensation similar to her needing to pee but rest assured it is not pee it is her ejaculate. Tell her to push it out! Some women can squirt a lot and some women a little it just depends. Reassure her you want her to squirt all over!

As she orgasms and squirts her vagina will contract and pulse on your finger, never ask her if she had an orgasm YOU will know.

IN the lifestyle you will learn real fast how awful, damaging and irritating drama can be. Every profile you read or couple you meet will advertise as seeking “disease drug and drama free”. You quickly learn the drama may be the worst of the dreaded D’s. Like high school dating all emotions are really magnified in the lifestyle. When you have a great time it is amazing, but when you have a drama filled or poor night it really can ruin your week.

Our close friends Ryan and Stacy are just about the only zero, zero zero drama couple we have met in the last year. Alot of great people we consider friends are pretty close, but everyone seems to have off nights or quirks that can ruin a night. Some couples have slight jealousy that can surface once in a while only, some have slight craziness or obsession and some have very slight overdrinking problems. All these are fine and not deal breakers since nobody is perfect but Ryan and Stacy never seem to have an off night and both are always as comfortable to spend time with as if we were just us two.

At first Stacy wasn’t exactly my type. She isn’t very flirty and a bit serious at times and this was actually an initial turn off as it is so different from my wife. Ryan and my wife clicked from day one. Ryan is a good dancer, good in bed and well endowed and not shy. He always spends the entire night by my wife’s side which is exactly what she likes in a date.

Over time, a few dates out, Stacy and I began to click with good sex and the fact that her seriousness is also a part of the fact that she never bullshits or mixes words. Honesty in ever way goes a long way for us, and since she sincerely likes us, its a good feeling to know that 100%.

So at the last house party we attended the place was wall to wall good looking couples. Alot of new couples came out that night and the DJ had the entire place jumping. My wife was dancing all night with half a dozen of our friends, guys and girls. My wife had stripped down to lingerie halfway through the night as did most the girls there and the dancefloor was hot. We both had more than usual to drink as we normally pace ourselves to a few drinks. About 1 am rolls around and we notice Ryan and Stacy no longer on the dancefloor. We decide to peek into one room that is set aside for couples to play and there they were naked with him on top of her and her legs in the air. We walked in and sat down on the sofa and said “keep going, we love it”. We watched her moaning for a few minutes when I excused myself for the bathroom. By the time I had returned my wife was in the pile sucking on Stacy’s nipples while Ryan fucked her. I moved in too kissing Stacy and licking her other nipple. Within a few minutes my wife had moved between her legs to lick her warm pussy that had been warmed up and wet. Stacy is notorious for getting wet and squirting alot so my wife was with a wet face quickly. Ryan opened a condom and got behind my wife and started to enter her while i licked his wifes nipples and my wife licked her pussy. This is when half the party decides to walk into our dim lit room and see what was all the noise. A few of the 8 people that entered we wouldn’t have minded. A single guy we knew well, a cute asian couple that Ryan and I both wanted the girl, and a cute latin couple where her husband was not my wife’s taste at all but his 18 year old girlfriend was super hot and wanted girl action with my wife.

All this was more than we wanted for an audience. My wife doesn’t care for an audience generally. We had to stop mid-sweat and go upstairs to find a private room. We did find a small bed and all got naked and exchange oral for the most part. Stacy was pouring wet on my face and my wife was as she likes sucking on Ryan’s cock. My wife has a real skill and weakness for sucking off guys, a great habit IMO.

We played a short while and both girls were really hating the tiny squeeky bed, and I think we all knew we had one too many that night. This would be the first night we called it a night mid-f*ucking. We had an hour or so of great foreplay and Stacy got a nice wet cum or two, but we are all friends so much that we have nothing to prove, its just great deviant fun with good friends.

We decided that getting 3am breakfast is better than fucking this night, and the next day we all four agreed we had an amzing time with people that make you as comfortable as having been alone with just my wife.

The friends that you have nothing left to hide from are the best kind, and also something only swinging can give you.

The wife and I will be heading to Vegas this coming week 5/11-5/14. We have been very interested getting it on with others but we have yet to do so.

Would you recommend an inexperience couple like us go visit a swingers club out in Vegas?

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I’ve tried a swingers club. The club was OK and the people were very friendly, but I did not find it to exiting. I am not an exhibitionist and in that club everyone could see want you are and who you are doing…

This website is much more better, bigger selection of people, you can find here anything and everything and much more cheaper.

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Anything you do in Vegas is going to cost you money. More fun more money. A lot of fun will cost you a lot of money…. Do your homework and browse the local profiles and find out what’s there for you.

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If a money is not an issues for you, then go for it! Most swinger’s clubs will let you attend and watch (of course with limit), with no pressure to participate. If you like what you see, then join in on the fun.

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Swinger clubs are not free for all fuckfests. Many people go there and do not swap (especially if they like being watched).

If you go remember not to just sit at a table (this is taken as sign of disinterest-get up and mingle). You are NOT required to do anything with anyone. No means no and those that act pushy are removed from the club.

If your relationship is stable and you both can accept it as an experiment, I say give it a try. Hope it will be as fun for you as it is for us.

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You can always try one, it does not mean you must play. A good club will let you watch, have drinks and just fun, but do not pressure you to participate. However it will cost you. Better club, better members, more rules, more money.

Cheap club, lose rules, and a lot of drunks… The choice is yours.

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I would go and check it out. It will probably be much different than you are imagining. Most are very low pressure and you only have to do what you want.

The second you feel uncomfortable you can always leave. But you could at least say you tried it.

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You say that you are an inexperienced couple…Well I think you are going to be educated going to a swingers club in Vegas…

You are going to love it or hate it…I say jump on in and get your feet wet…Do your homework and find the one that suits your needs the best…

You might have the best night and the best sex in your life. You will never know if you never try.

Have a great time…

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I say do it. The only way you can get experience is by getting experience.

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Go for it! If you don’t feel comfortable doing anything you can just watch and learn. I am sure the club will make you horny like you never been before!

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Why do the women and girls that have sex on the first date gets dump in a short time. Why those girls get the shit end? I have been single now for few months and I can say that being single sucks! I want to have sex and when I click with a guy, I [...]

Why do the women and girls that have sex on the first date gets dump in a short time. Why those girls get the shit end?

I have been single now for few months and I can say that being single sucks! I want to have sex and when I click with a guy, I know with in the first ten minutes of our date I will fuck him, or let him  get me if he is a man enough to give it a try.

I have learned that I get the most pleasure in life from  sex, so why should not have sex as often as possible?  I  have found a lot of men think  that, they don’t have to impress me anymore, after they laid me down.

Why so? I am take care of myself, I am extremely clean, and I am in pretty good shape. I love any form of sex, including anal sex.  For plus, I am a really good sex partner. I do not have  kids so my pussy is fairly tight…

I think people come here to find sex, so I deserve to be wined and dinned, not dumped. What is wrong with men this days?

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Perhaps its the gene pool you pull from. You need to make your guys work for all the goodies. You know you will fuck the guy, but should not tell him.  You might not want to say anything about sex until your guy takes you out. Then he can have you and this way  you’ve got everything you wanted.

Are you looking for a sex party in your city?

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I think that it has something to do with the ritual. If you are only out to fulfill your pussy with your sex need, chances are that your prospective partner is doing the same thing.

Sometimes, sex is just sex and fuck is just a fuck, and nothing else. If you want something different, look for something different. Don’t throw yourself in the first ten minutes, make your dating partner work for you.

You have the ability of making it either a nice date with a hot sex at the end of the night or simply an act.

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Why those guys should buy the cow, when they get the milch free? They are maybe horny, but not stupid….

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Well you plan a nice evening out with dinner and drinks. If the desire is there it should not cause a problem to finish the night with hot sex. Moaning on here about why and why not will get you nowhere. People treat you the way you let them.

Have some respect for yourself, respect others, be a lady and men will show you more respect.

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The reason women who fuck on the first date get the shitty end of the deal is that a lot of men don’t respect a woman who fucks on the first date. Sims to me they keep forget this is not a romantic dating site, this is a sex dating site. People come here to find casual sex.

Men think the woman is loose or nymphomaniac and fucks everything and everybody in pants. This obviously isn’t fair, but that’s how many guys look at things, whether we, women like it or not.

I have been single for a bit over the year. I was faithful to my husband until he died. Since then, I have only been with few men sexually. I usually don’t fuck on the first date, but I will do it on the second date, if the chemistry is right.

I had sex with a new guy very recently, and now I am wondering if I should have waited because the guy doesn’t seem to be that into me anymore. He hasn’t called me since, even though I thought the sex was great. And, when I called him, I didn’t get the wonderful response I had expected.

He didn’t exactly blow me off, but he didn’t act as though he was that much into me either.

I’ll tell you one thing, though: if this new man doesn’t call me soon, I will be a lot more selective about going all the way from now on, even if I feel great chemistry.

You live and learn, I guess. At my age, I really should have known better, but it’s not easy going from a long marriage to being single. People do have needs, and, as a much younger woman, you probably are much more sexed up than I am, too.

You need to find a man who enjoys sex as much as you do and who doesn’t care if you fuck him and now many men you fucked before him on the first date.

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Just tell them they must date you first. Its simple. If your horny like you state you are, then go ahead and have sex on
the first date. But don’t come on here and complain that they lose interest.

Of course they do, and they will always. Men like this. If you get the one rare man who comes back again for more, then gently suggest having lunch or dinner first. Maybe, just maybe…it could be the start to a nice sex relationship.

Kinda a “friends with benefits” instead of just a “fuck buddy.” Most men feel if you gave it up that easy for him, then you are doing the same thing for every guy. Its hit and miss on this web site. You have to be your own advocate!

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Jesus lady… Have you looked at your picture? For sure your body is nice, but that beautiful body of yours doesn’t scream wine and dine… it is screaming fuck me in the ass now…. You get what you advertise!

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Married Men | Casual Sex With Single Women
Married men, please excuse. But my question is related to married men and casual sex relationship. She does not have to be a swinger to have casual sex. Why do women out here (esp singles), carry a bitter attitude against married guys? Kinda keep carrying the -  “Married men, please excuse..”, banner with them most of [...]

Married men, please excuse. But my question is related to married men and casual sex relationship. She does not have to be a swinger to have casual sex.

Why do women out here (esp singles), carry a bitter attitude against married guys? Kinda keep carrying the -  “Married men, please excuse..”, banner with them most of the time.

Logically married men are safer to have casual sex with then single guys. Less change to pick up STD less change to get attached and many more reason to have one night stand or 3sume with a married man.

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It’s the married guys that want to cheat that aren’t appealing.

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Well I do agree with you in principle, but my query was more specific about the generic tag of – “married men”, and all that’s attached with it. There are others like ‘Men, will always be men”! What else do you expect?

Frankly I’ve seen guys attaching similar tags to the subset of the female species, who are married! Which is precisely why I was wondering – maybe it’s better to just set it aside as one of those stuff, which ain’t really a guy’s stuff.

Coming back to your response – what of married guys making it out with other married women? The scores are settled here, ain’t it? Anyways, thanks for your response and have a jolly good time out there!

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I believe some of the reasons the women on here dislike married men are:

1) They are not available for a real courtship;

2) They are obviously on here because they are cheating on their wives;

3) They seemingly don’t have the gumption to get divorced;

4) They expect all women to embrace them with love and sex.

However I am different. I don’t mind married men at all. The reason I don’t dislike married men is that I can understand why a man might cheat on his wife if she does not satisfy him or her sexually. I understand that, after many years of hard work, some men would be reluctant to give half of their earnings to a woman who won’t sleep with them and won’t even work to earn her keep.

I can understand how a man who has been with the same woman for many years might not want to hurt her by walking out, and therefore considers sneaking around and cheating to be the lesser of two evils.

But most women don’t see things my way when it comes to married men. I personally abhor men, be they married or single, who lie about their intentions. If a man comes right out and says he is married, he is at least being honest. If a man is married and hides it, then he deserves what he gets.

Very recently, a supposedly single man pretended to be very much interested in me when all he wanted from me was sex, purely and simply. That to me is a far greater crime than a man being married and admitting it.

This does not mean I only want to date married man. As a widow, I would prefer a man who is unattached. But, at the present moment, I freely admit that I am having a sexual relationship with a married man whom I met outside of SwingersCouple.net, and I commend him for at least having been honest with me from day one that he wanted an intellectual and sexual companion and nothing more.

BTW, some people on here hate ME for “enabling a cheater.” So, women who date married men are as unpopular as the married men themselves.

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I think what I’ve come across that’s pissed me off, though I don’t carry a grudge just say “no thanks”, is the guy that’s attached or married but puts that he’s single or separated, then when you start to chat, its “oh, yeah, I’m married (or attached).” I don’t have a problem seeing a married guy for some hot sex, but please be up front about it, don’t try to deceive me about it!

In casual sex relationship the open communication is very important.

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When both are married, that is different. When she is single and he is married, maybe with children, that hurt spreads to innocent parties. (Imagine daddy caught AIDS from a casual shag and passed it on to mummy, or your mum got pregnant or herpes from some random bloke she picked up – these things happen)

I am not going to be a part of this. I won’t date married men with out his wife.

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What makes you that married men carry all sorts of STD’s – from AIDS to herpes. Single men and single women are bigger risk then married.

It is like Malaria being carried by the Female Anopheles mosquito. Kudos for such innovative thoughts.

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