http://www.fox4now.com/story/14557823/swfl-swingers-scene

The writing staff took their zero experience in the subject, interviewed a doctor with zero experience in the subject and scared some neighbors with their stories of
“sexual deviants creeping in their rooms at night to steal their children”.

They even had the hidden face swinger telling all, and gasping neighbor showing the appropriate shock.

The references to being forced underground sound very nazi-esque.

I have before compared swinging to homosexuality in that it is a choice/or natural depending on you beliefs, it harms nobody and it is a personal decision and life choice. I can’t think of anything more genetic or natural than every persons desire for sex and fantasy.

I still am left not knowing why hate towards the gay community is a hate crime, but hate towards a equally or far more natural personal lifestyle like swinging is allowed and encouraged?

Perhaps we need some lobbyists?

A strange double standard. And not a knock on my gay friends throughout life, and the many bisexual women in the lifestyle itself.

FOX 4 put their expert reporting mind of Liza Fernandez on the case, who’s title is that of “reporter” and also “weekend meteorologist”, clearly an expert in reporting such social issues.

The meat of the story was spent interviewing Dr. Krista DeWelde a sociologist.

They were very intent on trying to create such a thing as an expert on swinging that has unfortunately never been one, seen one, partied with one or socialized with them as a group.

FOX 4 gave us lots of ambient camera shots of her diploma and the books she has apparently written.

The expert Dr. Krista DeWelde, the one with zero related experience, went on to explain:

“So there are jealous feelings that come with imagining, seeing, experiencing your partner with another person”.

This single line preoves she has zero knowledge of the topics she claims to be a convenient expert on.

These jealous feeling from seeing and imagining your partner are far more dulled and extinct in experienced swingers, This jealousy is the exact thing that defines non swingers.

Swinging isn’t about the sex alone, it is about the comfort and complete open frankness you get to enjoy everyday.

Infidelity and fear of infidelity are the exact opposite of what swinging represents. Sexual relations without consent is the exact opposite of sex with consent and mutual appreciation.

In cheating and the fear it creates in weak relationship swinging and non swinging it is the breech of trust that is the offense not the act itself.

In the “lifestyle” there is the act with no breach of trust. In the non swinging world, everyday your boyfriend, husband and girlfriend’s eyes scan other people, coworkers and sexy strangers. All this time they never share their feeling or what they inside would feel as an indiscretion.

Secrets breach trust, and in the lifestyle the most hidden secrets of the “real world” are not secrets. My partner and I share every thought, the most natural ones we all have, thoughts of sex, fantasy and desire.

I have heard swinging described in this way and it can serve as a lesson for the metoerologist, and non swinger sociologist that seem intent on faking expertise on this matter.

Jealousy, fear of breached trust and worry over your partners honesty are perhaps the most poisonous things that can exist in a relationship. Weve all been a part of a relationship in our youth where we thought perhaps it was happening to us and it overtakes you mind and can not be removed once in place.

These jealous feeling are poison to the ability to trust.

Now in swinging we all had slight pangs of jealousy the first few times, then a little everytime your scenerio or playtime progressed to new milestones.

We took that jealousy like a small tase of the poison that haunts non swingers. Thenext day we woke up together, arroused, excited and feeling like kids. More importantly, we woke up still ok, in love and “the sky didn’t fall”. What most non swinging couples consider the most horrible thing they could ever imagine in their mind, we faced that fear and it didn’t really hurt. We learned that for the most part it was fun and i learned the next day my wife loves me and nothing at all can dent that. The greatest fear of non swingers bounced off our relationship like a rubber ball, without even a mark.

Now as a few years passed, we played alone, with singles, friends and built relationship of all natures. We upped the dose as we desired more or got more comfortable with the idea that nothing at all can get between us and the “sky will never fall”.

And now today here we are, immune to the worst poison all “vanilla” non swingers fear, Jeaoulsy, infidelity, our partners desiring others sexually and telling our partner that we do too.

What fun and exciting things and freedoms can destroy the strongest 30 year non-swinging marriage in 5 minutes, can never even make us skip a beat.

And lastly, my parting advice to Dr. Krista DeWelde, aside from come to a club and let me change your mind . Is that there are many things in life one can’t understand without experiencing it. The first night my wife and I ever played and began in the lifestyle with both feet in, we learned one lesson, which was that there is no way to be prepared for the experience.

No person outside the lifestyle can anticipate or know what to expect without trying it. Like no other thing I have done in my life, it was a change of mindset and programming in place for a lifetime.

See the story here if you like
http://www.fox4now.com/story/14557823/swfl-swingers-scene

Also, turned on to this story by Rebecca Ammon at rebeccaammon.com, so go read her now.

If you havn’t done Miami Velvet you are missing perhaps the best and most sexual club in the Southeast US. Miami Velvet provides a younger, high energy sexual atmosphere that is unlike any other club we have ever done, it is our hands down favorite place to visit.

When you hear me sing the praise you immediately think bigger and higher cost or upscale to the point of snooty crowd? You are far from correct.

Velvet is a very welcoming scene, smoke machine, laser lights and great music every single time we go.
perhaps the best music of any club (swinger or vanilla) we have ever visited.

If you havn’t taken the time to see the wildest half dressed dance club out there, make this weekend that time. Saturdays provide the largest crowds with perhaps 200+couples, also tends to have the best music and hottest party goers.

Check the clubs event list here.

Love me some school girls!

We tried hard to make it before 11pm so we could get a discounted entry. Velvet is very nice in the fact that they offer a way to get a discount on the hefty entry almost every night.

We drove up at 11pm and opted for the VIP entry line. The extra $15 lets you skip the 20+ minutes youll stand in line if you arrive when we did. If you want to avoid lines I suggest showing up at 10:15 most Fridays or Saturdays.

The club seemed ecspecially dark tonight and my wife and i exchange looks we share when it feels like a real “vampires den”. Vampires is how we describe the feeling of a large gathering of swingers in a sexually charged atmosphere like Miami Velvet.

The club is very often wall to wall “10′s”, and tonight was ecspecially hot. Short skirts with the sexy bottoms of girls butts peeking out were everywhere we looked. By midnight the entire dancefloor had almost filled out and people have had a few drinks and starting grinding their ways out to the middle of the floor.

There comes a time in the night when the girls start breaking the ice for the men by dancing together and building the sexual air.

When Velvet is full is the the absolute best the lifestyle has to offer. The youngest and sexiest crowd in the lifestyle we have ever seen is pretty much common place at Miami Velvet. Combine this with an exceptional bullpen of DJ’s dark lights, laser and smoke and you have a consistantly intoxicating scene that has not gotten old for us after many visits.

Tonight was about to become the hottest night we’ve had there to date. As has been the case a few times the dancefloor has been a hard place to break into cliches and meet people cold turkey. We have been in the lifestyle in other cities and Miami is sexier by far, but is also a double edged sword. The problem with everyone being a 8,9 or 10 in the club is that many of them have that view of themselves as well. Sometimes a very sexy club is also a very unapproachable clientele. The dance floor has brought us some hookups and some flirting and some run ins with less friendly people. But again, this is just life and everything gets magnified in the lifestyle.

The night went pretty well in the front end, but when we finally made our way to the towels only back rooms the night became one for the record books. The night went from warm to super hot very quickly.

Read the next draft for the good stuff

When I arrived this past Friday Miami Velvet’s parking lot was packed with Mercedes, Porche’s and even a Lamborghini. Inside the doors of the private night club I found myself waiting in a line of beautiful women and men anxiously waiting to pay the cover and walk through the velvet curtains. The main room was dark with black lights flashing around the dance floor. Women were dancing on stripper poles and the bar was lined with swingers decked in all white dresses or suits, which were simultaneously sexy, scandalous and erotic. I don’t know if it’s the Cuban influence or all the time spent playing on South beach but bubble butts seemed to be the fashion statement of choice.

From Blogger & Lifestyle expert Rebecca Ammon
Here is the full article of her trip to Miami Velvet.

If you have never been to the Estate, this is the time to try it. If you have thought about the lifestyle, pondered it or even dabbled in it but never had a “wild” time, please make an effort to break this ice with this event.

We travel out to the Estate Club once in a while for dancing, see old friends and venture upstairs for more fun later. We don’t go too often any more, but this is the must be at weekend event.

The party will be from 8pm Friday to 6am Monday morning. Friday is more single men friendly and a smaller older crowd. Saturday is the wildest of the three nights, and a newbie can expect 250 other couples from 25 to about 50 years old to be dancing their asses off all night. Everytime it is a 3 day weekend the place is twice as packed, so if ever there was a time to decide as a couple to go, this is it.

If you plan on attending, and it is your first time there, you have to register at Carolinafriends.com so they have your name on the list. This is private free and easy, its really just a safeguard for them. Make sure you arrive around 8 to 9:30pm on Saturday if you want the best advice. You’ll need time for orientation (lol fun) and it will fill up fast after 9:30pm.

Email us, love to meet new people that are first timers there for such a huge weekend event!
We WILL be there for this one!