It is important to note that while there is something for everyone, there is alot of sites for nobody as well.

We have experience working with and being members on a large number of websites. Each of them are ideal for a certain type of swinger crowd.

AFF or Adult Friend Finder is one of the best known site, thanks to alot of “marketing” it has become a super well exposed brand.

We have been members of Aff.com for a number of years. We started there because it is where inexperienced swingers go before they learn more about the lifestyle. We also returned there because it does have a huge member base if you are looking for certain things. If you want “off the radar” swingers, newbies, freaks and of course single men who are more horny than lifestyle this is a good place to shop.

Adultfriendfinder.com will give you access to a barrage of penis pictures and single guys wanting to “get laid”. I have stated before that guys out to “get laid” are not swingers. Single males in the lifestyle are very different in their demeanor, approach and understanding of how to be a friend in the lifestyle as a single male.

AFF also brings a good amount of something different if you are like us and want those off the radar swingers who don’t exist on other sites and don’t attend parties and swinger events. You can find the closet swingers on AFF for sure.

SLS or www.SwingLifeStyle.com is one of the other “big ones” online for meeting experienced couples. SLS is highly involved in the lifestle events, community and promoting. You will find SLS to have a 1990′s quality website, not much in the way of modern website features, but it does have the most important features of a huge, huge client base of members. We have never been a paying member on SLS, free members only so we did not explore all it’s features. We never found the need for a membership there in the area we lived.

SDC.com or the Swing Dating Community is one of the sites you could probally start out on as a new swinger. You would be happy to know it is so full and well rounded with events and large number of profiles that you could stay there long into your experiences as well. SDC is very connected in the southeast with running events and meet and greets so you get a good handle of whats going on as well. With sites like AFF.com you do not get events to attend and the sense of community on a true swingers website like SDC.com provides. This is one site we are actively a member on and will likely always be.

Playfulswingers.com is one we had been a member of for a short time when we lived in Atlanta and Raleigh. This site is generally based from Virginia to Tampa on the east coast and provides alot of real couples and info on events. Playfulswingers is associated with AAHZ party events and hotel takeovers and promotes them through there. We have attended 2 of these events and they are excellent fun. If you do not get to travle to the best clubs in Atlanta and Miami then these AAHZ events are about as good as you can get. This site doesnt have too many single and is almost all real couples ages 28-45 that are experienced in the lifestyle. This site has recently BECOME FREE as well. We reccomend you go and sign up there and meet alot of the established regulars, a very friendly community style site.

MVClub.com is the site in conjnction with the Miami Velvet Swingers Club. Membership on MVClub.com is about the same price as SDC or AFF but at the same time gets you huge discounts on Miami Velvet admission prices year round. Miami Velvet also hosts alot of SDC meet and greets and events. There is at the very least 2 of these per month at Velvet, which are great low cost and top quality crowds and parties. This is another site we have been members of on and off, and if you are anywhere in Florida from Tampa to Miami you should be a member on this site. MVClub isnt the most modern site of this group but it does have alot of smart features others don’t. MVClub.com is the only one weve seen that tells you someone is currently reading your profile, which in turn makes you read theirs, and in real time you are meeting in essence. This is a super smart feature, simple and smart. You can also see who is attending the parties on this site, previewing the nights crowd at the club you all meet up at later is a priceless idea. With the amazing admission discounts this is a must signup website for a Florida area swinger couple.

Facebook? Yes Facebook. This has slowly and surely been beating the others into the ground. Facebook has created an ideal setting for swingers to meet. You can go anonymously to a swingers board, LIKE join ar comment and see a huge list of swingers right on that wall. More and more swinging communities have been starting a second anonymous facebook account for the reason of being able to secretly socialize with their friends and peers. So newbies, this is another free way for you to start meeting people safely at home.

We have alot of cute vanilla friends, made all the cuter because of their off-limits status. There is clearly something sexier and more erotic about  the look of surprise and longing on the face of a vanilla friend being exposed for the first time. There is even more fun to be found in being the one holding their hand, then their towel .

Most full swap couples in the lifestyle have at very least dabbled with the concept of converting a friend or two they know. A friend at work, old friend you always liked or even that next door neighbor or family friend that always seemed a bit more exciting than most.

While there is a slight risk in the fact that you “can never UNtell” someone your lifestyle secret, we all also know when and who to break it to. We all have friends that are not quite vanilla and we know they would be open or interested in being a part of our fun.

Add to all this the fact that most swingers are very cordial and helpful in helping new couoples or “tire-kickers” who want to learn more. We have all been the new couple, latched to the wall, intimidated or just nervous of how things work and not wanting to overstep our bounds.

For this fact, most couples and experienced swingers are more than happy to escort you to a new club, a house party or simply sit and have drinks till 3AM talking about experiences and letting you learn a safe and easy way.

Keep in mind, we are staring at you like a tasty sandwich and hoping you will scream “LETS GO”, but sitting patiently all the same and being horny and helpful in one motion.

So when they person or couple says, “lets goto the club together”, “lets ride with you to that party you talked about”.

Now what do you do?

Of course, most of us say, “great idea”. We start getting ideas of a hot night with fresh meat and a great sexual experience with someone on their first time. Most of us say yes and go along with this fantasy that seldom turns out this way.

So my advice to you now is, don’t throw away a great party or that Saturday babysitter you worked so hard to get. While helping others learn and break-in is a great idea, this will almost never turn out as described in your fantasy talk with your wife.

We have found ourself at clubs on 3 or 4 occasions with the “new – dont know anyone” semi-vanilla couple or person attached to our hip. Every one of these have been cute for awhile then frustrating later when old friends start dancing with us and the party gets a bit hot and we need to be constantly good hosts.

This is like having a big party in your home. You think wow this will be great, you make all the decisions, set up everything, pick the music, but in the end it becomes you working while everyone else is in party-mode and having more fun than you.

Have that person over to your house for something more private and don’t waste that babysitter. Have that person drive to the club or party seperately and best yet get them a date or a “stunt-couple” so you are sure they have someone other than JUST you to talk with all night.

We have done this on a few occasions, we have everytime woke up the next day already planning our next party without any baggage. Without going into detail, we found ourselves standing and talking to them all night being courteous.

We essentially found ourselves reduced to vanillas in an attempt to help other not be.

And on the few occasions that we said “they’ll be fine” and went ahead, got naked got wild or just pursued couples we liked on our own for a bit, we tend to wake up the next day feeling guilty about their discomfort the night before.

It is certainly true it depends on the vanilla, if they are bold and good with people to begin with. They need to understand that they make their own fun. It is always a bit ackward as they learn about boundries and learn how and when it’s ok to do what. When that agressive leo male comes up and throws and arm around her or dives in for a kiss, these are the few surprises they need to not be surprised by.

Once they learn how it is different to be at a lifestyle party they will learn how to socialize without worry, unfortunately it tends to take a lifestyle couple having a PG-13 night of setting an example before they can get to this point.

So, in short, dont throw away that great party on breaking someone in. Best to lead them to water, teach them by stories at your place alone and let them fend for themselves at that big party.

It may sound a bit insensitive, but babysitters and great parties are not infinite and the vanilla-sitting is sure to waste one of each.

http://www.fox4now.com/story/14557823/swfl-swingers-scene

The writing staff took their zero experience in the subject, interviewed a doctor with zero experience in the subject and scared some neighbors with their stories of
“sexual deviants creeping in their rooms at night to steal their children”.

They even had the hidden face swinger telling all, and gasping neighbor showing the appropriate shock.

The references to being forced underground sound very nazi-esque.

I have before compared swinging to homosexuality in that it is a choice/or natural depending on you beliefs, it harms nobody and it is a personal decision and life choice. I can’t think of anything more genetic or natural than every persons desire for sex and fantasy.

I still am left not knowing why hate towards the gay community is a hate crime, but hate towards a equally or far more natural personal lifestyle like swinging is allowed and encouraged?

Perhaps we need some lobbyists?

A strange double standard. And not a knock on my gay friends throughout life, and the many bisexual women in the lifestyle itself.

FOX 4 put their expert reporting mind of Liza Fernandez on the case, who’s title is that of “reporter” and also “weekend meteorologist”, clearly an expert in reporting such social issues.

The meat of the story was spent interviewing Dr. Krista DeWelde a sociologist.

They were very intent on trying to create such a thing as an expert on swinging that has unfortunately never been one, seen one, partied with one or socialized with them as a group.

FOX 4 gave us lots of ambient camera shots of her diploma and the books she has apparently written.

The expert Dr. Krista DeWelde, the one with zero related experience, went on to explain:

“So there are jealous feelings that come with imagining, seeing, experiencing your partner with another person”.

This single line preoves she has zero knowledge of the topics she claims to be a convenient expert on.

These jealous feeling from seeing and imagining your partner are far more dulled and extinct in experienced swingers, This jealousy is the exact thing that defines non swingers.

Swinging isn’t about the sex alone, it is about the comfort and complete open frankness you get to enjoy everyday.

Infidelity and fear of infidelity are the exact opposite of what swinging represents. Sexual relations without consent is the exact opposite of sex with consent and mutual appreciation.

In cheating and the fear it creates in weak relationship swinging and non swinging it is the breech of trust that is the offense not the act itself.

In the “lifestyle” there is the act with no breach of trust. In the non swinging world, everyday your boyfriend, husband and girlfriend’s eyes scan other people, coworkers and sexy strangers. All this time they never share their feeling or what they inside would feel as an indiscretion.

Secrets breach trust, and in the lifestyle the most hidden secrets of the “real world” are not secrets. My partner and I share every thought, the most natural ones we all have, thoughts of sex, fantasy and desire.

I have heard swinging described in this way and it can serve as a lesson for the metoerologist, and non swinger sociologist that seem intent on faking expertise on this matter.

Jealousy, fear of breached trust and worry over your partners honesty are perhaps the most poisonous things that can exist in a relationship. Weve all been a part of a relationship in our youth where we thought perhaps it was happening to us and it overtakes you mind and can not be removed once in place.

These jealous feeling are poison to the ability to trust.

Now in swinging we all had slight pangs of jealousy the first few times, then a little everytime your scenerio or playtime progressed to new milestones.

We took that jealousy like a small tase of the poison that haunts non swingers. Thenext day we woke up together, arroused, excited and feeling like kids. More importantly, we woke up still ok, in love and “the sky didn’t fall”. What most non swinging couples consider the most horrible thing they could ever imagine in their mind, we faced that fear and it didn’t really hurt. We learned that for the most part it was fun and i learned the next day my wife loves me and nothing at all can dent that. The greatest fear of non swingers bounced off our relationship like a rubber ball, without even a mark.

Now as a few years passed, we played alone, with singles, friends and built relationship of all natures. We upped the dose as we desired more or got more comfortable with the idea that nothing at all can get between us and the “sky will never fall”.

And now today here we are, immune to the worst poison all “vanilla” non swingers fear, Jeaoulsy, infidelity, our partners desiring others sexually and telling our partner that we do too.

What fun and exciting things and freedoms can destroy the strongest 30 year non-swinging marriage in 5 minutes, can never even make us skip a beat.

And lastly, my parting advice to Dr. Krista DeWelde, aside from come to a club and let me change your mind . Is that there are many things in life one can’t understand without experiencing it. The first night my wife and I ever played and began in the lifestyle with both feet in, we learned one lesson, which was that there is no way to be prepared for the experience.

No person outside the lifestyle can anticipate or know what to expect without trying it. Like no other thing I have done in my life, it was a change of mindset and programming in place for a lifetime.

See the story here if you like
http://www.fox4now.com/story/14557823/swfl-swingers-scene

Also, turned on to this story by Rebecca Ammon at rebeccaammon.com, so go read her now.

We have been venturing to some of the clubs of Florida lately and the girl-girl swinger population seems out of control.

A girl-girl swinger or swingers profile means that the wives are looking for other girls to play with bisexually while the husbands enjoy the live show. Most often the other husband is not allowed to touch at all or only in the most limited way.

If you ask me, and you didn’t, im not sure how this is even “swinging”, but of course to each there own is the backbone of the lifestyle.

This entire lifestyle choice seems to break one major rule of the lifestyle which is that bedroom fun is something to share together in an unselfish way. Ladies, while your husband may tell you he loves watching you please another woman, what hes not saying is that he would love it more if he could help.

We had once had a unicorn when we lived up north that was from Miami. She had warned us the scene was very different here in regards to the social dynamic of the couples in the lifestyle. She had said in Florida it was like fishing, which means the older husband sends the sexy young wives out to find other wives and reel em back in for a girl-girl only swinging playtime.

Im sorry to report she was correct in this description.

Now, this is not to say its only girl girl, swinging is still the same anywhere you go, but there is far more girl-girl “guys watch” couples here in the Florida scene.

Sounds like a great problem to have you may think? Not really.

The problem arrises that we are a full swap couple, we play all different ways, but we prefer to hit a home run with a couple where everyone wins. So now we are in the clubs like Trapeze or Miami Velvet or simply browsing through sexy profiles online. Now we think we found a hot couple till we read the preferences and they are girl girl only.

Again, you say this is their choice and I can’t say word one? You are right about that for sure, but everything in moderation. When emails start coming in from couples looking for single girls only over and over it begins to feel like walking on eggshells at the clubs. The rules are the same everywhere but now a full swap couple has to step lightly and be concerned about finding out at the last second that he is to wait on the sidelines.

Am I ranting a little? yes for sure I am. But is the girl-girl scene pretty big ddown here in the Floridas? Again a yes. And do they have to make it clear early and often and not be offended when we walk away from this one sided hookup? A final yes.

I found my wife dancing and exchanging touches with a very sexy latin girl in her 20′s this past week at a club. The husband was great, friendly sitting at the bar with me and toasting our sexy wives. To a trained eye in the lifestyle like ours we both knew what this couple was looking for and it wasn’t the same as us. her husband was in his late 40′s, and not my wife’s type anyway but also seemed determined to step back and encourage his girl with mine. It was super sexy, they were great, but my wife also knew that she is not about me sitting at the bar excited and sighing.

Another couple apprached my wife as soon as this other girl ran off to the bathroom, a sexy blonde and her good looking husband. My wife was dancing with her the same, she signaled me over to them and we all had a little dance floor fun. Now the first girl returns and her husband and her watch and wait then leave in rejection. This is my example of everyone having the best intention, everone finding each other sexy, but at the same time we were like a horse and a zebra trying to mate. We looked the same, ran in the same field but are not compatiable.

Everyone have fun, we like to play in every way, but with everyone looking for something different in the club you have to feel it out very quickly and understand when they like you alot but are not into the same things for excitment nor have the same comfort levels in sharing.

We tried hard to make it before 11pm so we could get a discounted entry. Velvet is very nice in the fact that they offer a way to get a discount on the hefty entry almost every night.

We drove up at 11pm and opted for the VIP entry line. The extra $15 lets you skip the 20+ minutes youll stand in line if you arrive when we did. If you want to avoid lines I suggest showing up at 10:15 most Fridays or Saturdays.

The club seemed ecspecially dark tonight and my wife and i exchange looks we share when it feels like a real “vampires den”. Vampires is how we describe the feeling of a large gathering of swingers in a sexually charged atmosphere like Miami Velvet.

The club is very often wall to wall “10′s”, and tonight was ecspecially hot. Short skirts with the sexy bottoms of girls butts peeking out were everywhere we looked. By midnight the entire dancefloor had almost filled out and people have had a few drinks and starting grinding their ways out to the middle of the floor.

There comes a time in the night when the girls start breaking the ice for the men by dancing together and building the sexual air.

When Velvet is full is the the absolute best the lifestyle has to offer. The youngest and sexiest crowd in the lifestyle we have ever seen is pretty much common place at Miami Velvet. Combine this with an exceptional bullpen of DJ’s dark lights, laser and smoke and you have a consistantly intoxicating scene that has not gotten old for us after many visits.

Tonight was about to become the hottest night we’ve had there to date. As has been the case a few times the dancefloor has been a hard place to break into cliches and meet people cold turkey. We have been in the lifestyle in other cities and Miami is sexier by far, but is also a double edged sword. The problem with everyone being a 8,9 or 10 in the club is that many of them have that view of themselves as well. Sometimes a very sexy club is also a very unapproachable clientele. The dance floor has brought us some hookups and some flirting and some run ins with less friendly people. But again, this is just life and everything gets magnified in the lifestyle.

The night went pretty well in the front end, but when we finally made our way to the towels only back rooms the night became one for the record books. The night went from warm to super hot very quickly.

Read the next draft for the good stuff

Today, facebook decided to close our account. We have never posted nudity, we have never used profanity and we have never attacked anyone. we have offered tips and advice about our region and the swinging lifestyle that we choose.

Take a moment to search on facebook and you will find groups dedicated to porn, hate groups,and hateful activism in a number of groups either offensive and pornographic. Many of these groups have years in existence and huge followings. facebook doesnt choose to remove groups of gay/lesbian or homosexual rights and issues, but took ours down without a thought.

Both homosexuality and swinging lifestyle are considered non mainstream by most americans, and both involve personal private sexual choices between consenting adults.

If a person was to make the argument that homosexuality is not a choice, but a natural preference born into a human being, is not desire for multiple partners far more natural and prevelent?

Is there a man or woman anywhere that doesn’t have some level of this type of desire as part of their genetic code?

Why is it gay and lesbian groups are afforded so much protection, rights and “status” as a minority group for their personal choice, but when it comes to our personal choice, something far more common and natural, it is considered a fad or fringe?

This is not a shot at gay and lesbian groups or people. Keep in mind most women in the lifestyle identify as bisexual, and it is never a person I would judge, but the double standard towards the lifestyle is undeniable.

Facebook calls gay/lesbian groups, rights of minority groups and free expression and think in the same breath they can pass judgement on us. Two personal choices born of the same natural human pursuit of happiness.

We wrote them today, and will consider consulting a lawyer if they do not respond with some respect for our personal lifestyle choices.

This was pretty much the norm for Aahz events and what you can expect at most big swinger parties. The pre and after parties are big parts of the fun as well that are not represented here. Those parties take place on the floors above and are alot of more of the same. At no point is anything high pressure at these types of events, alot of educated respectful people cutting loose, all of whom understand the rules of the play.

If you have never been to the Estate, this is the time to try it. If you have thought about the lifestyle, pondered it or even dabbled in it but never had a “wild” time, please make an effort to break this ice with this event.

We travel out to the Estate Club once in a while for dancing, see old friends and venture upstairs for more fun later. We don’t go too often any more, but this is the must be at weekend event.

The party will be from 8pm Friday to 6am Monday morning. Friday is more single men friendly and a smaller older crowd. Saturday is the wildest of the three nights, and a newbie can expect 250 other couples from 25 to about 50 years old to be dancing their asses off all night. Everytime it is a 3 day weekend the place is twice as packed, so if ever there was a time to decide as a couple to go, this is it.

If you plan on attending, and it is your first time there, you have to register at Carolinafriends.com so they have your name on the list. This is private free and easy, its really just a safeguard for them. Make sure you arrive around 8 to 9:30pm on Saturday if you want the best advice. You’ll need time for orientation (lol fun) and it will fill up fast after 9:30pm.

Email us, love to meet new people that are first timers there for such a huge weekend event!
We WILL be there for this one!

We have been “off duty” now for longer than ever before. It has been almost 2 months since we have had sex with others in the lifestyle. We still attended parties, skinny dipped, played lightly, but just havn’t been feeling anyone in our circle. We normally play alot for a lifestyle couple, but this is a side effect of having met a hot circle of friends with alot of sexy choices. Now it seems, the well has run a bit dry.

This weekend should be different. For those who dont know what a hotel takeover is lemme break this party down.

Friday night will be room parties at the hotel. The AAHZ staff (swinger events), has an entire floor locked off for us. Nudity in the halls is normal. The Friday night event is mostly warmup and scouting out meat for Saturday. Saturday is a pool party (clothes on) at the hotel and at 7pm a hosted suite party on the locked off floors. Most people will at least pass through and likely 60-80 people popping in and flirty and socializing. At 9pm the main ballroom will be dancing, cages, polls, nudity, drinking and a hot time all night. Afterwards the party goes to after-party back on the locked off floor and shouled be alot of sex and wild things you’d have to see to believe.

We have about 3 couples in our sights already, I will let you know how it went. I had hoped to have my first asian girl this weekend, maybe yes maybe no ,

IN the lifestyle you will learn real fast how awful, damaging and irritating drama can be. Every profile you read or couple you meet will advertise as seeking “disease drug and drama free”. You quickly learn the drama may be the worst of the dreaded D’s. Like high school dating all emotions are really magnified in the lifestyle. When you have a great time it is amazing, but when you have a drama filled or poor night it really can ruin your week.

Our close friends Ryan and Stacy are just about the only zero, zero zero drama couple we have met in the last year. Alot of great people we consider friends are pretty close, but everyone seems to have off nights or quirks that can ruin a night. Some couples have slight jealousy that can surface once in a while only, some have slight craziness or obsession and some have very slight overdrinking problems. All these are fine and not deal breakers since nobody is perfect but Ryan and Stacy never seem to have an off night and both are always as comfortable to spend time with as if we were just us two.

At first Stacy wasn’t exactly my type. She isn’t very flirty and a bit serious at times and this was actually an initial turn off as it is so different from my wife. Ryan and my wife clicked from day one. Ryan is a good dancer, good in bed and well endowed and not shy. He always spends the entire night by my wife’s side which is exactly what she likes in a date.

Over time, a few dates out, Stacy and I began to click with good sex and the fact that her seriousness is also a part of the fact that she never bullshits or mixes words. Honesty in ever way goes a long way for us, and since she sincerely likes us, its a good feeling to know that 100%.

So at the last house party we attended the place was wall to wall good looking couples. Alot of new couples came out that night and the DJ had the entire place jumping. My wife was dancing all night with half a dozen of our friends, guys and girls. My wife had stripped down to lingerie halfway through the night as did most the girls there and the dancefloor was hot. We both had more than usual to drink as we normally pace ourselves to a few drinks. About 1 am rolls around and we notice Ryan and Stacy no longer on the dancefloor. We decide to peek into one room that is set aside for couples to play and there they were naked with him on top of her and her legs in the air. We walked in and sat down on the sofa and said “keep going, we love it”. We watched her moaning for a few minutes when I excused myself for the bathroom. By the time I had returned my wife was in the pile sucking on Stacy’s nipples while Ryan fucked her. I moved in too kissing Stacy and licking her other nipple. Within a few minutes my wife had moved between her legs to lick her warm pussy that had been warmed up and wet. Stacy is notorious for getting wet and squirting alot so my wife was with a wet face quickly. Ryan opened a condom and got behind my wife and started to enter her while i licked his wifes nipples and my wife licked her pussy. This is when half the party decides to walk into our dim lit room and see what was all the noise. A few of the 8 people that entered we wouldn’t have minded. A single guy we knew well, a cute asian couple that Ryan and I both wanted the girl, and a cute latin couple where her husband was not my wife’s taste at all but his 18 year old girlfriend was super hot and wanted girl action with my wife.

All this was more than we wanted for an audience. My wife doesn’t care for an audience generally. We had to stop mid-sweat and go upstairs to find a private room. We did find a small bed and all got naked and exchange oral for the most part. Stacy was pouring wet on my face and my wife was as she likes sucking on Ryan’s cock. My wife has a real skill and weakness for sucking off guys, a great habit IMO.

We played a short while and both girls were really hating the tiny squeeky bed, and I think we all knew we had one too many that night. This would be the first night we called it a night mid-f*ucking. We had an hour or so of great foreplay and Stacy got a nice wet cum or two, but we are all friends so much that we have nothing to prove, its just great deviant fun with good friends.

We decided that getting 3am breakfast is better than fucking this night, and the next day we all four agreed we had an amzing time with people that make you as comfortable as having been alone with just my wife.

The friends that you have nothing left to hide from are the best kind, and also something only swinging can give you.